Sometimes you hide the best and most beautiful version of yourself…
Find that spark again!
“Healing may not be so much about getting
better, as about letting go of everything that
isn’t you — all of the expectations, all of the
beliefs — and becoming who you are.”
— Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.
Core Qualities are characteristics that belong to the essence or the core of a person. They ‘color’ a person; it is the specific strength that we immediately think of when we have someone in mind. Examples of Core Qualities are: care, diligence, orderliness, decisiveness, receptivity, empathy, and so on. There are hundreds of them. Some of them are so specific to you that you could call them Core Qualities. With our Core Qualities, we express who we are.
Developing your personal core qualities is an important step in becoming the best version of yourself. Your core qualities are the values and characteristics that make up your unique identity, and they serve as the foundation for your thoughts, actions, and behaviors. By identifying and strengthening your core qualities, you can improve your relationships, achieve your goals, and live a more fulfilling and authentic life.
Some common Core Qualities include honesty, integrity, empathy, resilience, and self-awareness. These qualities are important because they help us build trust, foster positive relationships, and navigate challenges in life. By developing these qualities, we can become more self-aware, more resilient, and better able to handle difficult situations.
Developing your core qualities is not a one-time process, but rather a lifelong journey of self-discovery and growth.
Is this concept new to you? Read this article first
Maybe the most beautiful thing about you is your true self…
Sometimes we hide our Core Qualities. Perhaps the best and most beautiful version of ourselves, because they’re not appreciated by a person or organization…
People and organizations can’t stand other people and organizations who have too much of what they are missing, you know. (Yes, I had to read it three times myself). That’s what we call our allergy/resistance.
Let’s take a look at how such a mask can come about…
Peter asked the head of the department: “Would it be an idea to call Lara, she’s been sick for a week now?” Department head: “I think you should get involved in your own affairs, I think that’s a much better idea!!“ (So maybe he means, I find you very sentimental, which is too much of what I can develop in myself more: namely Empathy)
Now, of course, such blunt department heads do not exist (right?), but you can imagine that Peter will not come up with such a proposal again any time soon.
So Peter has a great Core Quality: Empathy/Tenderheartedness.
But not at work anymore, he has learned that after some of these events.
At work, they no longer have ‘access’ to this beautiful Core Quality of Peter.
He keeps it for his wife and children at home!
But who’s the problem here? Either way, Peter put on a mask at work.
We’re not in Kansas anymore. He plays his ‘safe’ role there.
If you didn’t know any better, you might even think Peter is pretty distant and businesslike. That’s not true, we know that…
The true self is the Core Identity that we carry within ourselves. It is who we are and it’s what makes us unique. The mask is all the things that we do, say, and think to hide our true self. So, the true self is something we all have access to, but it often gets buried under layers of masks we wear to (psychological) survive in our world. But a little of your world also becomes less colorful
But at work, that’s his survival strategy. Peter is in stealth mode. As crazy as it sounds, it’s actually kind of nice not to be addressed anymore on an unappreciated quality.
It’s safe, but it’s also a little tragic. He’ll probably never show his real qualities again. The play has begun …
At work, he is far removed from his core, of who he really is. How long is that going well?
One thing is for sure: Peter is no longer running at 100%. What a pity!
The mask imparts a false or superficial self, which can be borrowed from others or constructed to fit the image, expectations and desires of others.
Masks are a common phenomenon which, by the way, often arises as early as childhood! We want to be loved and appreciated so much, that we are willing to give up everything, even ourselves…
The search for our Authentic Self is a deep, personal and authentic exploration of the true essence of one’s self. It’s the part of us that is most in touch with our life purpose! So we can move forward on our journey of living authentically. Authenticity has become more important than ever in a hyper-connected world.
Often, after playing a role for a long time, you don’t even know you have these Core Qualities in the first place. You even think that you have to develop these missing qualities. But there is no question about that, you have to remind yourself that you have (always had) them and dare to live them again!
It takes courage, to dare to be yourself again…and make your qualities shine (again) as it was meant to be…!
Don’t make yourself small, not for anyone! We are made to impress!The Core Quadrant demystifies the complex process of authenticity and shows you how to step into your own power and confidence by choosing to be true to yourself. (your Core Qualities)
The true self is not an idea, not a brand or a persona. It’s a process. This process is about asking the right questions and then asking them again and again until you are willing to face the true you.
The true you is someone who does not know what people want from them, who does not know how they should be, but knows how they are.When you reflect upon this core, authentic self, you can find your life path as well as your strengths and challenges.
Do not forget to listen to your heart and follow your dreams. When you do, you will attract people who want to connect and help you through your journey…
You have to make the decision to be yourself again, no matter what the outcome may be. Your gifts at birth, will shine in all their beauty.
Your true self is your highest potential, it’s worth guarding that!
To be true to oneself, is a challenge we all face
But for some, it’s a journey, they must embrace
For too long, they’ve hidden behind a mask
But it’s time to let go, and take off that task
To be authentic, is to be true to you
To live your life, in a way that is new
To let go of fear, and embrace your own light
And to let your true self, take flight
It’s time to let go, of what others may say
And to trust in yourself, in every way
For when you are authentic, you’ll find true peace
And a happiness, that will never cease
So here’s to you, on your journey ahead
May you find the courage, to be true to your heart and to your head
And to live your life, in a way that is real
For when you are authentic, you’ll truly heal.
“When I dare to be powerful — to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.” — Audre Lorde —
You can always reach Albert Heemeijer personally by sending me a message at info@heemeijer.com or +31612325250 (also WhatsApp)
I speak English, German and Dutch
More information?
http://www.corequality-education.com
http://mission9.space (The book Mission9 — The secret of the Core Quadrant)
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